Many people use January 1st as the date to measure their success from the previous year and make plans for the future year. Resolutions and changes in behavior are always at the top of the list. I have never subscribed to this thinking. Turns out my birthday was that marker for me.
Yesterday was my birthday. If I am honest it has not my favorite day of the year. It has been this way since I was seventeen. Nothing tragic ever happened to make me dislike it. For years it bothered me and I was not able to figure out why. Everyone told me it was the age change, but this never bothered me at all.
Reflecting on the past year would often let me down in terms of accomplishments and desires perhaps not fulfilled.
This year I am trying to be better about those things. Reduce the desire to beat myself up - let myself off the hook. I want to spend more time on the positive things in my life. Spend more time on the things that matter, friends, family and exciting work.
Saying no to more things so I can say yes to things that matter most to me. Simplify and reduce the mental clutter I have accumulated over the years.
Many many people have helped shape this mindset change in me, but no one more than Monica Rodgers. She has showed me a side of myself that I refused to see, she has loved me without question, she has helped me through rough patches and supported me when I did not think I deserved support. Her presence in my life has changed everything.
This is the best gift that I have ever received ! Thank you love…